Well, I did. I was going back and forth as to whether I should go out with Seth, someone who was 3 months into a divorce....as in it wouldn't be final for about a year. Deep down it sounded like a bad idea...but I kept thinking why not take a chance? He seems to think he's ready!
In fact, me being me I asked advice from at least a dozen friends, some divorced, some not. Not one of them said I should "take a chance." In fact, all of them said DON'T DO IT.
What did I do though? Oh, well I listened to the advice, just didn't take it. It's a problem I have.
I can give advice all day, all week long and I am often asked for it. In fact I was asked by at least three different people today (2 female and 1 male!) for love advice...and I had a lot to say!
Oddly, I don't understand why people come to me really because I can't seem to keep a relationship going...or maybe I haven't wanted to.
But I digress back to taking a chance...so I decided to give this guy a shot. He was damn sure charming. I went for it and fell for the lines like the true dreamer I am. I thought there might have been a chance with this one. It felt different....and it probably was for both of us at the time.
However, I think that what was different is that he had bolted from the gate and was free after 10 years with the same woman. I'm sure that felt DAMN good!! Obviously, for him it damn sure felt different to be with someone new and exciting.....I like to think I am at the very least that.
I guess there is something to be said for the energy of a new relationship, or shall I say fling. That's what it turned out to be.
The novelty seemed to wear off quickly. Next thing I know he has a new girl...probably feeding her the same lines and hoping for the best. I find a selfish comfort knowing that it won't work for her or the next...and that even he won't be satisfied with commitment straight out of a marriage...but what I do know is he will look back and remember me for not making it hard to move on...in fact for making what might have been a sad time, a good one.
I for one learned first hand, as I need to do in order to dole out advice to my friends that dating the recently divorced is not a good idea. You will only be the good time girl. If that's cool with you, go for it - just don't FALL for it.
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Uh-oh... "that" guy. I've dated "that" guy, too. Lesson learned: Denial is a very powerful thing. So is vodka. But that's another story.
Evidently Georgia has a 30 day divorce period; so ladies, please be advised that just 'cuz the man is "official" doesn't mean the ""that' guy" statute of limitations has expired.
Sorry about the divorcee experience, Kitty. But wise man once say "Now you know. And knowing is half the battle." GO JOE!!!!!!!!
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