The last guy I went out with turned out to be such a phoney that I made the decision to go looking for my man on a site where hopefully people genuinely want to find love.
It's been quite entertaining so far. I'm finding I'm sometimes more enthralled with all the things that people should NOT do on match.com when creating a profile.
In fact, I think I have created a new job for myself: "match.com photo helper." There are soooo many bad pictures out there.
If I had a date for every photo taken in a bathroom mirror, my calendar would be full for the rest of the year. A close second is the shot of a guy from 100 ft away where you can't tell if it's even the same person. Why even bother including that one?
Now going back to thinking I would find someone seriously looking for love....that's not even necessarily true. There's quite a few I've seen that openly admit in their profiles to just wanting "a good time" aka SEX. I've even had some contact me when it is clear from what I've written about myself that I'm looking for a long term relationship.
Just yesterday someone wrote and asked me to join him in his "BRAND NEW HOT TUB." Yah, he caps locked that whole part. It is just the strangest thing to me...but not surprising since what I have learned over the years is that guys go to many lengths to get laid.
More on that later....For now I'm going to try online dating and see what happens....if anything I will have some entertaining stories to share here.
(I sure am rambling today. It's obvious I am not focused!)
Sunday, September 20, 2009
Saturday, September 19, 2009
No, YOU'RE not the one!
So I met this guy we'll call Pete recently. We had some fun conversations and he seemed like a likable guy. Anyway, out of the blue he invited me to go on a rafting trip. I was unable to make it due to a prior commitment...but that's neither here nor there, but what is:
He asked me on Monday to go out on a date on Friday. I thought, "sure, why not?" The only drawback was that not only was he 7 years younger than me, but Pete also wasn't quite meeting my maturity level (which is not saying much!).
So two days later, I get a phone call from Pete. He says his friend is having an event that he wanted to go to and that maybe a date wouldn't work. He was stuttering a bit, so I knew something was up. In response, I said, "so is it that you want to go to your friend's show or that you just don't want to go on the date?" He said, "welllll, it's just that I'm at a point where I really want to meet the one and I don't think you're the one." WOW! I almost started laughing because 99% of guys I meet are less than forthright.
However, the immature girl that I am wanted to shout, "Oh, yah??!!! Well, I don't think YOU'RE the one! Ha! So there!"
I do have to wonder why the hell he asked me out in the first place and changed his mind in 2 days...can't figure you men out. Anyways....NEXT!
He asked me on Monday to go out on a date on Friday. I thought, "sure, why not?" The only drawback was that not only was he 7 years younger than me, but Pete also wasn't quite meeting my maturity level (which is not saying much!).
So two days later, I get a phone call from Pete. He says his friend is having an event that he wanted to go to and that maybe a date wouldn't work. He was stuttering a bit, so I knew something was up. In response, I said, "so is it that you want to go to your friend's show or that you just don't want to go on the date?" He said, "welllll, it's just that I'm at a point where I really want to meet the one and I don't think you're the one." WOW! I almost started laughing because 99% of guys I meet are less than forthright.
However, the immature girl that I am wanted to shout, "Oh, yah??!!! Well, I don't think YOU'RE the one! Ha! So there!"
I do have to wonder why the hell he asked me out in the first place and changed his mind in 2 days...can't figure you men out. Anyways....NEXT!
Tuesday, September 15, 2009
He said...take a chance~
Well, I did. I was going back and forth as to whether I should go out with Seth, someone who was 3 months into a divorce....as in it wouldn't be final for about a year. Deep down it sounded like a bad idea...but I kept thinking why not take a chance? He seems to think he's ready!
In fact, me being me I asked advice from at least a dozen friends, some divorced, some not. Not one of them said I should "take a chance." In fact, all of them said DON'T DO IT.
What did I do though? Oh, well I listened to the advice, just didn't take it. It's a problem I have.
I can give advice all day, all week long and I am often asked for it. In fact I was asked by at least three different people today (2 female and 1 male!) for love advice...and I had a lot to say!
Oddly, I don't understand why people come to me really because I can't seem to keep a relationship going...or maybe I haven't wanted to.
But I digress back to taking a chance...so I decided to give this guy a shot. He was damn sure charming. I went for it and fell for the lines like the true dreamer I am. I thought there might have been a chance with this one. It felt different....and it probably was for both of us at the time.
However, I think that what was different is that he had bolted from the gate and was free after 10 years with the same woman. I'm sure that felt DAMN good!! Obviously, for him it damn sure felt different to be with someone new and exciting.....I like to think I am at the very least that.
I guess there is something to be said for the energy of a new relationship, or shall I say fling. That's what it turned out to be.
The novelty seemed to wear off quickly. Next thing I know he has a new girl...probably feeding her the same lines and hoping for the best. I find a selfish comfort knowing that it won't work for her or the next...and that even he won't be satisfied with commitment straight out of a marriage...but what I do know is he will look back and remember me for not making it hard to move on...in fact for making what might have been a sad time, a good one.
I for one learned first hand, as I need to do in order to dole out advice to my friends that dating the recently divorced is not a good idea. You will only be the good time girl. If that's cool with you, go for it - just don't FALL for it.
In fact, me being me I asked advice from at least a dozen friends, some divorced, some not. Not one of them said I should "take a chance." In fact, all of them said DON'T DO IT.
What did I do though? Oh, well I listened to the advice, just didn't take it. It's a problem I have.
I can give advice all day, all week long and I am often asked for it. In fact I was asked by at least three different people today (2 female and 1 male!) for love advice...and I had a lot to say!
Oddly, I don't understand why people come to me really because I can't seem to keep a relationship going...or maybe I haven't wanted to.
But I digress back to taking a chance...so I decided to give this guy a shot. He was damn sure charming. I went for it and fell for the lines like the true dreamer I am. I thought there might have been a chance with this one. It felt different....and it probably was for both of us at the time.
However, I think that what was different is that he had bolted from the gate and was free after 10 years with the same woman. I'm sure that felt DAMN good!! Obviously, for him it damn sure felt different to be with someone new and exciting.....I like to think I am at the very least that.
I guess there is something to be said for the energy of a new relationship, or shall I say fling. That's what it turned out to be.
The novelty seemed to wear off quickly. Next thing I know he has a new girl...probably feeding her the same lines and hoping for the best. I find a selfish comfort knowing that it won't work for her or the next...and that even he won't be satisfied with commitment straight out of a marriage...but what I do know is he will look back and remember me for not making it hard to move on...in fact for making what might have been a sad time, a good one.
I for one learned first hand, as I need to do in order to dole out advice to my friends that dating the recently divorced is not a good idea. You will only be the good time girl. If that's cool with you, go for it - just don't FALL for it.
Monday, September 14, 2009
Thursday, September 3, 2009
Dear creepy match.com guy,
Dear creepy match.com guy,
You have the crazy eyes. If you would like to find love or at least not scare it immediately away, please lose one or more of the following from your picture:
a) tarp
b) creepy camo truckah hat
c) pegboard complete with tools as your back drop.
You have the crazy eyes. If you would like to find love or at least not scare it immediately away, please lose one or more of the following from your picture:
a) tarp
b) creepy camo truckah hat
c) pegboard complete with tools as your back drop.
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